Thursday, October 1, 2015

Speak Up! How Can You Communicate Effectively at Work




“ In an ajar, trusting environment people explore clarification and supplant assumptions with understanding. Tragically, most workplaces are the converse. ”



Erle Wheatley - “ Structured Communication Builds Trust”



Some people seem to have an innate ability to connect with others in a spontaneous way and others have to work at it. But we need adequate communication skills to survive in life. Without them, we’ re at a disadvantage in many parts of our lives. We learn these skills from our parents, and subsequent from teachers and friends. We repeatedly have gaps in our knowledge about communication.



Communicating markedly sounds like a simple occupation. If it’ s so easy, what holds us back? In successful interactions we explain others and what they’ re saying, thinking and receptivity. Then we can improve our relationships with each other and hereafter improve overall caliber in the workplace.



Forewarned is forearmed. Sensible that workplaces are less than perfect climates, how can we find ways to work together respectfully? Being aware that most of us have gaps in our communication skills and that variant personality types communicate differently puts us on warning that we need to educate ourselves in this area. If we approach our work longitude with open eyes and some basic ‘ tools’ we can communicate effectively with our co - partners. Here’ s how: catch, listen ( no, really listen ) and respond. Without fail, you’ ve heard it before, but now it comes with a twist: honesty. That’ s right, being honest with yourself and others.



Nicholas Boothman writes about four basic business personalities in How to Connect in Business. The types proceed differently and have need feedback that fits their uniqueness. The dreamers, or idea generators like space and options; the analysts make direct ideas work and need us to fee attention to detail; the persuaders know how to get ideas useful and like enthusiastic responses to suggestions; and lastly the controllers insure that things get done and don’ t like to waste time. So it’ s no surprise that we need to salary close attention to how others relate to make the wheels turn in the workplace.



Spare dimension of communication is our delivery, or expression. Expression is a mixture of speech, body language, delivery and eye contact. Boothman says the most effective way to connect with others is to look them in eye. He recommends that we do an exercise: for one day just grasp the eye flush of every person you just, that’ s all. This will increase our rapport with others and our confidence in our own abilities. Extended powerful tool for understanding how someone is excitability is to subtly mimic their body language. It’ s quite surprising how well we then sense the other person’ s feelings.



It takes exertion to put aside our own ideas, and more importantly, our judgments. We often punch in to be listening when we’ re really not. Davis, Paleg and Fanning, authors of The Messages Workbook call this ‘ mock listening’. We do this for numerous reasons including preparing our response, desire to be liked and not witting how to permit without offending someone.



Humble communication means saying what you have to say these days to a person, not behind their back, and using diplomacy and understanding. Be certain to state how you feel, not how you think they feel ( use the tried and true “ I message” ).









Offering solutions to the problem and willingly acknowledging the truth in what they say creates a productive and healthy workplace.



Many people have written about the basics of clear, assertive communication. These affect giving our full attention to the person speaking, listening for the feelings behind the words as well as the content of what’ s being said and acknowledging what you’ ve heard. We can be obliged what we’ ve heard by paraphrasing ( i. e. restating for clarification ) and by giving honest feedback.



Complete messages have four parts: observations, opinions, feelings and needs. When receiving messages, practice inquiry yourself ‘ what do I grasp? ’, ‘ what’ s my opinion’ etc. First step out some of the parts makes the communication only a incomplete whole story. This may lead to misunderstandings. Other common peril we may fall into by omitting parts of messages is sending imperceivable messages, or messages with negative subtext underlying the vocal words. Try to take yourself before you convey secreted messages that express that the receiver is doing of moment astray. An sampling of this would be ‘ you work slower than a one - legged snail’ with the underlying scoop of ‘ you’ re too slow at your work’. When we admit all the higher parts the stated score will be identical with our underlying feelings and opinions. The news will then affiliate with our non - spoken communication which makes up 70 - 80 % of our interactions ( i. e. body language, call and eye signals ).



The easiest way to communicate successfully is to keep it simple to avoid the common pitfalls. Pamela Ziemann, writing in “ Speaking with Your Authentic Voice” has a formula for communicating successfully. She recommends totally listening without formulating your answer; pausing for 2 - 5 seconds to breathe; repeating the problem; then responding honestly. She stresses the importance of not saying too much.



Ralph Waldo Emerson uttered: “ To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something further is the greatest accomplishment”. Part of trusting ourselves is listening to our intuition, or “ the power of sage things without conscious reasoning” ( Webster ). We have all experienced positive and negative intuitive or desolate feelings. These body - mind messages may come as hunches, thoughts, voices, restlessness or feelings of relief. Trusting quite than sultry them gives us more information to work with. This helps us communicate more strikingly and to know when, situation and to whom we should speak. It allows us to be more honest with ourselves and others.



Balancing our own needs with the demands of our jobs means communicating respectfully and honestly and creating psychological safety for ourselves in our work environment. When we speak and act from our core values we enrich our own lives and those of everyone we come in contact with. So go ahead, Speak Up!



TIPS:



Think carefully about what you’ re saying and why



Self disclose only if fat



Repeat questions, giving yourself time to identify your feelings



Check others’ statements twice to get a truer response



Follow your intuition



Ask yourself: How does my workplace fit my values?



Have some fun at work

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