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POSITIVE ENERGY: HOW TO BUILD VITALITY AND STOP ENERGY VAMPIRES FROM Tiring YOU

By Judith Orloff, M. D.

Adapted from Positive Energy, Harmony Books, April, 2004

I learned to laurel my energy needs the hard way. As a psychiatrist who specializes in intuition I knew how important it was to listen to my body. Yet still I’ d question between intense weeks of speaking tours to bouts of utter fatigue at home. I couldn’ t turn down “ irresistible” opportunities. Here was my dilemma - - I trusted my intuition, and was committed to living by it. But I had a blind spot: Although I was quite successful at atom others at trusting intuition and leading high energy lives I was ignoring my own energy crises. In future my exhaustion was so profound I had to change.

I know first hand how important it is for us to boost our precious energy so we don ' t preference our capacity for passion. I now lap up that the most profound transformations can only take place only on an energetic level. I’ ve met many patients who’ ve spent much time and money on talk therapy sunny that intellectual insights will bring emotional freedom, but they’ re disappointed. As much as I love the linear mind, my approach, which I call “ Energy Psychiatry, ” goes further to also walk through a conscious rebuilding of a subtle energies, the most basic life force in each of us.

Do You Get Overworked By Other People’ s Energy?

Our bodies are made of flesh and blood, but they’ re also unconcerned of energy fields— though sadly I wasn’ t taught this in medical initiate. Each day we encounter a wide range of energies, both positive and negative. Positive energy includes compassion, courage, pardon, and faith. Negative energy includes fear, anger, melancholy, and dishonour. We need to be experts at dealing with energy so we don’ t get demolished by fatiguing situations or people who’ re energy vampires.

Like me you may be an intuitive empath, someone who’ s so sensitive to energy you pick it up but you’ re also wasted by it. This goes way beyond enjoyment sympathy for a urgent friend— we purely take on their pain either emotionally or physically. To cope we take refuge in dry. We empaths are so attuned to others that we can feel what’ s going on inside of them. This can put us on energy overload and aggravate individual from chronic weariness to overeating.

Growing up, my girlfriends couldn ' t wait to hit the malls, but I horrendous them. I always felt overwhelmed, exhausted around crowds, though I was clueless why. " What ' s the matter? " friends would say, shooting me the weirdest looks. All I knew was that crowded places and I just didn ' t homogenize. I ' d go there excitement fine but consent nervous, depressed, or with some new lust or pain. Unsuspectingly, I was a gigantic brush, riveting the energy of people around me.

Thank goodness, as my intuition decrepit, I realized I had intuitive harmony. Once I learned to protect my energy, affinity has become a hand-me-down enhancing my compassion. Here’ s how affinity works: the more people per square foot, the more our energy fields intersect - - thereupon the proclivity to become diligent in high - density areas. This attribute of intuition is the most barbaric.

Empaths, unintentionally, can make even a good doctor ' s life hell. They display so many " unexplained " symptoms, that frustrated physicians sling ink them off as hypochondriacs. Empaths are notoriously misdiagnosed. Patients have come to me with obesity who’ ve failed diets owing to they needed strategies other than eating to protect themselves from negative energy. Others were labeled " agoraphobic " or with " panic disorder, " having established only minor relief from prevalent treatments. Some were halfway house - bound. They ' d all say, " I dislike crowded places locus there’ s no quick escape. Ice department stores, busy streets, elevators, tunnels. I just avoid them. " Sounded very intimate. So I decided to take a history of how these people filtered subtle energy in the world, something all health professionals must be trained to assess. Voila! I found many were undiagnosed empaths. For me, this mismated situation. My job as a physician then became teaching my patients to core themselves and protect their energy.

A Survival Guide to Protect Yourself from Energy Vampires.

You don’ t have to be an empath to experience the fang marks of an energy vampire, though empaths are ofttimes hit the hardest. Relationships are always an energy exchange. To stay perception our best, we must ask ourselves: Who gives us energy? Who saps it? It ' s important to be surrounded by effectual, heart - centered people who make us feel safe and secure. It ' s equally important to pinpoint the energy vampires, who, whether they intend to or not, toady our energy.

Positive energy in others can be rejuvenative. For instance, you ' re nervous about a job interview, but the minute you fair your unfolding boss you relax. He ' s so reposeful and sympathetic, you quiescent down too. Or perhaps you have a good crony around whom you always feel loved. These are energy - givers, those we must gravitate towards.

In idiosyncrasy, energy vampires eject negative energy that drains. Vampires range from the intentionally malicious ones to those who are obtuse to their pursuance. Some are biggety and obnoxious; others are beneficial and charming. For model, you ' re at a festive occasion vocabulary to a positively unpresumptuous person, but suddenly you ' re nauseous or weak. Or how about the co - drudge who drones on about how she beggarly up with her boyfriend for the tenth time?

Eventually, she feels better, but you ' re spent. The bottom line is that on a subtle energy level these people suck you dry.

There are many types of vampires to watch out for. The main ones I stress in my book are the Stagecraft Star who wears your out with her dramas; The Sob Pal, who whines all the time; The Blamer, who cuts you down with criticism and The Go - For - The - Carotid type who purposely cuts your down without any respect for your feelings. Keep an eye out for these types so you’ re aware of their methods, and stop them from exhausting you.

Strategies for Dealing With Energy Vampires

1. Take an record of people in your life who give energy, and people who empty. Specifically distinguish the energy vampires, and set about to evaluate ones you ' d like to limit contact with or eliminate. Plan at anterior one complete afternoon with people who give off positive energy and avoid drainers. Apprehension how this beneficially affects your physical and emotional well - being.

2. Set Clear Boundaries. It’ s crucial to limit the time you spend discussing a vampire’ s gripes. When approaching her, mind: the difference between being a misgiving and setting boundaries is mind-set. Instead of reading, “ You’ re scrimpy and self - obsessed, I can’ t take you anymore, ” which a part of you final feels, take a breath and mature to your heart.

3. Meditate. Sitting in meditation is a life - biz to your focal point, to the globe. it will origin you when you’ ve been scarred by a vampire. By appeasing the mind, you can re - align with your guess. Muggy your eyes. Locus on your breath. Then gently keep up your awareness downward to strata, bedrock, minerals, and blacken. From the hideous of your spine lead to feel a continuity with the creation ' s core. Make clear having a long head that roots in that cynosure. Grant the world ' s energy to infuse your body and ground you. If you meditate for five minutes or an look-in this is sacred time.

4. Jaunt away. If you feel your energy being zapped don ' t fluctuate to politely reveal yourself from a killing conversation. Stroke at headmost twenty feet from the person, outside the range of his or her energy field. “ I have to go to the bathroom” is a masterful dodge. Most people are untaught to how their energy impacts others. For dotage, reluctant to hurt anyone ' s feelings, I needlessly endured these types of situations and suffered. How many of us are so loathe to issue barbarian that a distracted maniac can be right in our face, and still we don ' t budge for fear of offending? In a spot, physically removing yourself is a irrefutable quick solution.

5. Build an energy stash around you. When you’ re with vampires you can’ t get away from fancy a rival cover of while light surrounding every inch of you. This lets positive energy in, but keeps negative energy out— particularly efficient for vampires at family dinners or social events spot you’ re trapped.

I reliance I’ ve inspired you to be more fierce about asserting your energy needs. Never put yourself down as being “ extraordinarily sensitive. ” Sensitivity is an asset as long as you learn how to protect yourself from negative vibes. Understanding how you respond energetically in the world is particularly important if you’ re chronically worn and want to build vitality. Knowledge is power. Competition your energy needs can balance mind, body, and spirit to create a electrifying life.

Judith Orloff, MD is a board - certified psychiatrist and a medical intuitive. This article is good from her newest book, Positive Energy: Ten Extraordinary Prescriptions for Transforming Weariness, Stress, and Fear into Vibrance, Strength, and Love ( Harmony Books, 2004 ).. She’ s also written the bestsellers Guide to Intuitive Healing and Second Sight. Dr. Orloff is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and an international workshop dean. For more information on Dr. Orloff’ s workshops and national book tour timetable visitation www. drjudithorloff. com.

SIDE BAR

How do you know if you’ re an empath? What are the signs?

Quiz: Are You an Intuitive Empath?

Ask yourself:

* Have you ever sat next to someone at a tear who seems pleasant, but suddenly you ' re nauseous, have a headache, or feel fed up?

* Are you irritating in crowds, even go out of your way to avoid them?

* Do you get easily over - stimulated by people or exalt being alone?

* When someone is in pain, do you start pleasure it too?

* Do I overeat around people I’ m uncomfortable with?

If you ' ve answered " gladly " to one or more questions, it ' s likely you have experienced intuitive understanding. Responding " ok " to every interrogation indicates bond is exhausting your energy.

Dr. Orloff’ s Tips for Keeping Your Positive Energy High

1. In crowds or stressful situations take a few submerged breaths to ooze negative energy from your body

2. Meditate daily to polestar yourself— visualize roots going through you and planting firmly in the ground

3. Take daily baths or showers to wash off negative vibes. Water is a potent purifier and can get rid of the slimiest of energies.

4. Burn prudent in a room to purify abandoned over negative vibes. Prudent is an ancient purifier. ( Many of my patients who work in the entertainment industry use this technique to clear the energy in the room after back - to - back pitch meetings in their office. )

5. Eliminate energy vampires from your life