For our ancestors, split - second decisions made on the basis of subtle visual clues could be a matter of life or parting. Today, first impressions still extract automatic responses, which may or may not be accurate.
Those automatic responses must be analyzed and clear to effect survival in a world post societal restrictions and nuances have farther many layers to personal interactions. Goman proposes five filters through which to sift first impressions:
1. Nitty-gritty: The first filter involves perceiving whether nonverbal behaviors are useful to their value. A man screaming and flailing his arms may be reacting to danger, or he may be watching a football game. Variables like setting, time of day, and former experience shape the value of any behavior.
2. Clusters: Someone with folded arms may merely be cold, but when double with a frown and head shake, those arms reliably indicate an unreceptive belief. A good rule of feel is to look for two other developing behaviors before assigning meaning to the first.
3. Congruence: When people trust what they are saying, their body language confirms it, and their expressions and gestures are like with their words. Incongruence ( such as saying “ I am really happy about that” while scowling ) may reveal the speaker’ s own inner riot between presupposition and words, or it may reveal deceptiveness.
4. Consistency: Provide for whether the behavior is oddball. A warning carries more weight when it comes from a person known to be habitually trifling. It is profitable to know a person’ s baseline behavior before reading too much into any single expression.
5. Culture: The last filter has assumed increasing importance in today’ s universal economy. People under any stress encourage to shine to the body language of their culture or subculture. In such situations, cultural literacy on the part of both speakers can prevent misunderstandings.
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