Learn To Say No and Build Your Inner Strength

Much has been talked about the power of saying ok and your ability to be unlocked to new thinking. This is all well and good, but the universe acts like a bourse of exchange. In regularity to receive you must also be able to let go. Letting go is a challenge and very few of us rise to it.

Particularly in our western culture it is frowned upon to refuse a favour or to decline an request. Social norm has it that you must be following the conventional standard blindly or risk being labelled as loutish and worse still shunned by your peers as an exorbitant withdrawn.

It is of course well documented that people thrive better, are healthier and live longer when they are actively engaged in small communities. The anonymity of residence life is the incomplete cause of many behavioural problems, including depression. It goes without saying that depressed people will not be good members of any society and are unable to make worthwhile contributions, let alone perform in peak states, be this in their work or relationships.

Our society inadvertently encourages living withdrawn lives and forming friendships out of need quite than a veritable feeling of requited harmony and overlap of note. While this feels a core need, at antecedent superficially it does you no favours in the long run, being it will weaken you energetically.

One of the steps to personal empowerment is identifying the things you do that leak away your inner strength and resolve. Many of us are frightened to say “ no” now we are frightened that it may in some way go against us.

Quite the reverse is the case. The senescent wisdom tradition of HUNA advocates cutting energy cords with the people in your life. The underlying premise is that each time we think of someone a connection is formed. In HINA this connection is referred to as aka cords. Can you think how many billions of aka cords are formed through your lifetime? This means that you arrogate the good and bad energies of everyone you ever connected with and also leak your own energy to everyone you have connected with.

Over time this leads to a massive leaking away of your own inner strength. You are of course unaware of this as this energy seepage happens very gradually over time. As you get older your energy levels gradually dwindle away.

Part of the ground may be that you smartly have too many aka connections which should be released.

The regular practice of releasing those connections is very liberating. You can do this right now by examining your circle of friends and acquaintances carefully. Who is there in your life just taking, without offering means in return? Who makes you feel exasperated and fagged, and who makes you feel good about yourself? Keep your emotions out of the way and don’ t feel held for realising that some of the people you are associating with are not side your progress.

Trust me this gracious of thinking is not a crime, but a necessity, particularly in times when our inner strength is under constant attack from appearance negative influences. You need to keep your inner virtuous up at all costs.

In the long run it is a solicitousness to yourself as well as the other people who do not fit your criteria. You are releasing them from a obstruction too, even though they may not be conversant of it ultimately. Part of growing is about piercing away those things that do not minister us and this is as much about ridding yourself of that dress you have not worn for the recent five senility as it is about ridding yourself of those people around you who make no charity to your life.

Many feng shui books talk about the need to clear out muddle. There is a lot to this advice. Alas, what do you think will have a bigger contact on your life? Getting rid of a few unused items or freeing yourself from those people and hangers on? I also call them energy vampires?

So look at your so called friends, look at your business colleagues. Make the alliances with those stronger who have something to proposition to you. It works both ways if you are more focused with your personal and business friendships you can also give more of yourself to those relationships, since making a powerful impression on each others life.

You can gently break away from those people who ownership you back. You do not need to fall out with them, just distance yourself in a polite and quiet way. Setting the intention alone is recurrently enough. You will gain energy and build personal impetus and become much more assertive in the process.